Your satisfaction with life is only as large as the goals you put in front of yourself. It’s okay to be a bit crazy. Push yourself. Dare to do the things that scare you, because every insane step makes the next one look easier. You have the capacity to do more than work and die.
Be the person everyone is talking about. Be the person that you’re jealous of today.
Show of hands, who has locked themselves in the bathroom to have a minute where no one can see your face?
I know I certainly do it. It’s a chance to let out some tension, take a deep breath, reset yourself, and flip your hair back into something fabulous (or whatever is passing for fabulous on the given day).
Usually, I do this on purpose. Today, however, I was more than a little bemused when I caught myself whispering “it’s okay, you got this,” on what I’d thought was a cut-and-dry bathroom break.
Really, J? You need to do this today? Are you just so conditioned to stress that this is Pavlovian now? Are you going to be telling the bathroom walls you’re okay for the rest of your life?
Well… Yes, probably. About halfway through berating myself, I realized I had been stressed, even if I hadn’t noticed it. And as for a Pavlovian response – telling myself it would be okay had worked. I’d acknowledged the scary task bothering me (hello, leading a training for an out-of-state office) and was ready to move on to actually tackling the task at hand. How cool is that?
I apologized to my subconscious. After all, it’s nice to know she’s got my back even when I don’t know I need it.
And now to plan that damn training….
I bought a necklace on a whim the other day, and while I normally rotate the necklaces I wear, I keep reaching for this one. Somehow, the simple act of putting the word “fearless” around my neck makes me less likely to hold myself back. And I love the fact that simply reminding myself bravery matters to me makes me stand straighter and tell myself, “you can do this.”